When you are dissappointed in others...
A couple of my friends are going through this...I myself have gone through this recently too. Yes, it does hurt, but it hurts because you care about the other person(s). If you didn't care about your friends, than why should it matter if he/she hurt your feelings right? You and I also hurt because we're human, it may be harder to tell them how you feel, or how dissappointed you feel...I myself have seeked this advice from JP, yet I still have yet told my friend that I'm dissappointed in him/her. One day, we will have the conversation, but now that it's a month later, is it worth mentioning? Is it better to just forget it and move on w/ my life?
One of my gf's mentioned to me, is FOCUS on God...What would Jesus do? WWJD... Don't lose focus on the one person that loves you no matter what you did/do/or will do and that is God. Often times, we put our hope and expectation on others and when the person doesn't fulfill or meet that expectation you feel really dissappointed, gloomy. Instead, you know that "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God"(Romans 3:23) redirect your focus and attention to God. Find God's purpose for you and live it to the fullest. You know that because no one's perfect, friends will hurt you. If it didn't hurt, than maybe the friend wasn't who you thought he/she was.
Options:
1.Pray for God's guidance, His wisdom to lead me...
2.Maybe it's confront this "friend(s)" and move forward...it's easier when the other party knows.
3.Say nothing, forgive the person and move on w/o telling him/her.
I personally am leaning towards option3...This of course, is my natural reaction/answer. I know that it should be option1 first, yet at the same time, I am leaning towards #3, becuase I don't want the Friend to feel ackward after this discussion. In the past, I've done all three options to different people.
Let me pray about this before I say anymore...
Some passages:
-Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God. (Psalm 42:11)
-A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much. (Proverbs 20:19)
-A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret (Proverbs 11:13)
One of my gf's mentioned to me, is FOCUS on God...What would Jesus do? WWJD... Don't lose focus on the one person that loves you no matter what you did/do/or will do and that is God. Often times, we put our hope and expectation on others and when the person doesn't fulfill or meet that expectation you feel really dissappointed, gloomy. Instead, you know that "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God"(Romans 3:23) redirect your focus and attention to God. Find God's purpose for you and live it to the fullest. You know that because no one's perfect, friends will hurt you. If it didn't hurt, than maybe the friend wasn't who you thought he/she was.
Options:
1.Pray for God's guidance, His wisdom to lead me...
2.Maybe it's confront this "friend(s)" and move forward...it's easier when the other party knows.
3.Say nothing, forgive the person and move on w/o telling him/her.
I personally am leaning towards option3...This of course, is my natural reaction/answer. I know that it should be option1 first, yet at the same time, I am leaning towards #3, becuase I don't want the Friend to feel ackward after this discussion. In the past, I've done all three options to different people.
Let me pray about this before I say anymore...
Some passages:
-Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God. (Psalm 42:11)
-A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much. (Proverbs 20:19)
-A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret (Proverbs 11:13)
posted by Bonbon at 10:50 p.m.
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