I'm sorry that I've been distant, I'm sorry that I've pushed you away...
Just like the title says...I'm sorry I've been distant, I'm sorry that I've pushed you away...This summer I've done just that. When I say "you" above there, I mean my "sauga friends." I mean it's not a secret, several people have approached me about it lately. I've thought about some things in life and there were just so much going on this summer that I didn't plan too much. Not that I spent Saturdays at home, bumming around doing nothin, NO!! I actually spent a lot of time w/ Burlington/Oakville friends this summer. Time well invested. One of my friends that I've known for three years, well what do you say? This is a friend of mine of three years but when I thought about it, how much do I really know? It doesn't matter when you first met and how long you've been "Friends", if you don't invest in the time to get to know someone...I realized that some of my other friends wanted to get together with me but I was always too busy for them or when I was free, they were busy. This was the case for my MAC friends. I guess what I'm trying to say, is that I needed to find that equal balance. I needed to spend time with everyone. Trying to spend time with all my friends. With my friends at Church, I see a couple of them on wednesday nites, some on Thursday and some on Sunday with a few saturdays in there too. If I do the calculation right, that's almost half the week. Don't get me wrong, I love spending time with you all, yet at the same time, that doesn't leave me much time to see my other friends in Burlington/Hamilton or my family.
On the otherhand, you can have tons of friends, but how many of them do you cherish? I mean, how many are "truly" your FRIENDS? Something I practiced this summer, spending quality time, investing in my friendships. Whether it's a BBQ, hiking, Jazzfest or any other activity, it was a way in getting to deepen the friendships. I can have tons of friends, but how many FRIENDS go beyond the "safe topics" the "surface" topics? How many will go beyond the call of duty, and give you a call when it's been awhile? How many will ask, can I pray for you? How are you doing spiritually? How many friends will remember what you like or dislike or one of your previous conversations? You can have tons of friends, but how many of those will stand beside you when no one else will? How many friends will ask, I'm concerned about you, are you ok? Something's wrong? How many will stand by you, even though you've pushed them away? Some may not know what I was went through, stress among other things, but it's great to know that you've been praying for me. That's what TRUE friendship is about...That's my definition of a close friend. What is yours?
What is the definition of a TRUE FRIEND? Someone who's dependable, lovable, humble and gentle, be yourself... Am I missing anything? TRUE FRIENDS are not afraid to ask, what's wrong? Something is a "bit off" or you seem distant, why is that? TRUE FRIENDS will tell you how they feel, guide you, give advice when appropriate and care about your well being. He/She will say, let's sit down and pray together and how are you doing spiritually?
What is your definition of a TRUE FRIEND?
On the otherhand, you can have tons of friends, but how many of them do you cherish? I mean, how many are "truly" your FRIENDS? Something I practiced this summer, spending quality time, investing in my friendships. Whether it's a BBQ, hiking, Jazzfest or any other activity, it was a way in getting to deepen the friendships. I can have tons of friends, but how many FRIENDS go beyond the "safe topics" the "surface" topics? How many will go beyond the call of duty, and give you a call when it's been awhile? How many will ask, can I pray for you? How are you doing spiritually? How many friends will remember what you like or dislike or one of your previous conversations? You can have tons of friends, but how many of those will stand beside you when no one else will? How many friends will ask, I'm concerned about you, are you ok? Something's wrong? How many will stand by you, even though you've pushed them away? Some may not know what I was went through, stress among other things, but it's great to know that you've been praying for me. That's what TRUE friendship is about...That's my definition of a close friend. What is yours?
What is the definition of a TRUE FRIEND? Someone who's dependable, lovable, humble and gentle, be yourself... Am I missing anything? TRUE FRIENDS are not afraid to ask, what's wrong? Something is a "bit off" or you seem distant, why is that? TRUE FRIENDS will tell you how they feel, guide you, give advice when appropriate and care about your well being. He/She will say, let's sit down and pray together and how are you doing spiritually?
What is your definition of a TRUE FRIEND?
posted by Bonbon at 9:51 p.m.
1 Comments:
Two ways of looking at it.
i) Avoid superficial conversation and focus on indepth friendships. In a sense, of a mass, only a few will be cherish and vice versa..
ii) Just let things flow...sometimes a close friend can be distant and a distant friend can instantly become close.
I notice that the close friends, i don't have to worry about giving face to show up for an outing. More importantly, they generally don't give u advice on what you should be doing and encourage and understand you to be who you are (other than commiting sin, of course). This I am trying to do in return as well. To listen, to encourage, and not judge..priceless...
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for me, a true friend..one that will spent 6 hours in the heat watching me race...
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